SAVING MARRAIGES!

HOW CAN WE SAVE MARRAIGE?

Posted here by Terry Bankert a Flint Divorce Attorney / Lawyer sharing his opinion.

What begins as joy, promise and comfort often ends in emotional torment and isolation.
“Regrettably, divorce has assumed a global dimension of great worry. In some lands, divorce rates is said to have skyrocketed and have even become an acceptable way of life to ease matrimonial troubles.”[3]

Our nation as the with the world is changing. Our basic values shift under exploding populations, economic disasters and the barrage is information from a plugged in world
One group holds out promise to strengthen marriage. “ National Marriage Week USA--February 7 to 14--is a new campaign to raise the nation's alarm about the huge drop in marriage rates and [1]

What impact does this have on children being raised in single family households? How does the breakdown of marriage affect our economy?

“…vast numbers of children being raised without both of their parents, …(we need to )… alert the nation about the looming relevance of marriage breakdown to our economic well being.[1]
Can we save marriage by celebrating it? Or should swe justr set an example fior our children and spouse by openly showing love to family members?

One group has attempted to capture information on one aspect of our changing world, the decline of marriage by celebrating marraige. National Marriage week was Feb 7-14. Did you kiss your spouse last week? see [2]

‘The first-ever Marriage Index, recently released jointly by the National Center on African American Marriages and Parenting (NCAAMP) and the Institute for American Values in October 2009, reveals a huge decline in national marriage indicators. One indicator shows 79 percent of adults were married in 1970, while only 57 percent of adults were married in 2008. Another indicator shows 40 percent of all children in America are now born out of wedlock; and 72 percent of African American children are now born without married parents.” [1] I do not know if this is true.

Since the era of “love”, the 60’s divorce has skyrocketed.

“According to Barbara Dafoe Whitehead in her book The Divorce Culture, she canvassed that divorce rate have accelerated at a dazzling pace since after 1960. And has doubled in roughly a decade and continued its upward climb until the early 1980s, when it stabilized at the highest level among advanced Western societies. “[3]

The sky is falling, the sky is falling, marriages are failing.

Why should we pay attention to a presumed drop in marriage valuation?
"The alarming drop in marriage rates in America combined with high divorce rates are financially costly to taxpayers and individuals, and emotionally costly to children. Marriage breakdown costs taxpayers at minimum $112 billion a year. The nation needs to pay attention."[1]

What are thje root causes of divorce? One source created the following list.

SEXUAL INCOMPATIBILITY;

LUST AND UNFAITHFULNESS;

FREQUENT COMMUNICATION BREAKDOWN,

CONSTANT ARGUMENT AND BITTER REMARKS,

REBELLIOUSNESS;

FINANCIAL CRISIS;

EFFECTS OF PEER GROUPS AND OTHER EXTERNAL FACTORS;

DIFFERENCE IN PRINCIPLES AND CULTURE,

PHYSICAL ASSAULT,

DRUGS AND

ALCOHOL; …[3]

Changing life partners does not solve most of our problems.

“Investigative research has shown that divorce does not always put a permanent cure to matrimonial intolerance. It often merely exchange one set of life's anxieties for another. In the true sense of the word, no marriage is perfect. It could suddenly turn fragile and its collapse seems imminent. Hence, in James 1:19-20, the Holy Bible teaches that "...let every man be quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger; for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God."[3]

Some think that marriage is better for our children?

Children who live with their married parents do vastly better by almost every measurement,"… [1]

If we presume marriage to be important to society and individual happiness what can we do to promote it?

Now this man sound odd from a Flint Michigan Divorce Attorney who markets with a billboard that sate Dumpmyspouse.com. Bar owners can decry alcoholism, heart doctors decry obesity, see my point?

As we change as a society what can we do to strengthen marriage?

“This goal of this new U.S. initiative, Let's Strengthen Marriage, is to elevate national attention on a year-round basis about the need to strengthen marriage and ways to do it, and initiate new efforts to reduce the divorce rate and build a stronger marriage culture which in turn helps curtail poverty and benefits children.[1]

Posted here
By Terry Bankert
http://www.flintfamilylaw.com/
　
　
[1]
http://www.standardnewswire.com/news/154644947.html
[2]
http://www.nationalmarriageweekusa.org/
[3]
http://www.modernghana.com/lifestyle/1309/16/seeking-divorceas-a-last-option.html
[4]
http://www.christianpost.com/article/20100214/churches-stress-commitment-over-consumerism-on-valentine-s-day/

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